Because it’s tradition.

There are those of us who like to use emotional pressure to make everyone keep on doing the same thing. We hate change, and once something awesome has happened once, we demand it every single year.

We call it tradition, and Christmas is our kingdom.

There are so many Christmas traditions that I love, like how we always eat fondue on Christmas Eve, or how we like to change the tunes of Christmas carols (did you know you could sing them all to the tune of “The House of the Rising Sun”?), or how my mom always gives us library books… that we have to return after Christmas.

But one of my favorite traditions is a newer one, only about six years old. On Christmas Eve (or in this case, the Saturday before Christmas, because now we all have crazy schedules), my group of close high school friends has a White Elephant gift exchange… at 8am at Bob Evans. Everyone told us that we wouldn’t stay close after graduating, but I can honestly say that these are still some of my favorite people and I love getting to come together every year, catch up, and welcome new people into our group.

Plus, who doesn’t love White Elephant gift exchanges? In the past years, some of the best gifts included the life size Orlando Bloom Legolas cut-out, the dancing N’Sync puppet, the book of Conversational Klingon, Elevated Friend Status, and a giant lump of actual coal.

Don’t be confused — this is a serious gift exchange. Before we got out of the car, I might have given James the rundown on how to win (and yes, there are winners and losers in White Elephant, anyone who thinks otherwise hasn’t gotten stuck with the half empty container of marshmallows). Always go for Jordan’s gift, though Shannon’s is often edible and delicious, and Rachel’s is usually entertaining for all.  This year boasted some fantastic gifts including lots of silly string, favors from a wedding that was several years ago, a book of awkward family photos, a nerf gun, and a tic-tac-toe kit. And after the paper settled over our breakfast dishes, I am pleased to announce that we walked away with a second year of Elevated Friend Status and a box of floppy disks. Wegmanns for the win.whitelephant 2012

What are some of your favorite Christmas traditions, be they sacred, ceremonious, or ridiculous? I love them all.

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That one time that I stopped being a good wife for a week…

Confession: This past week I have taken some time off from being rockstar wife.

Meals haven’t been planned or prepared. (We’ve been eating off the same lasagna that I made last week and announced that it would be the last meal I made till papers were done. ) Laundry has piled up. Groceries haven’t been purchased. The disturbing ring in the tub has gone ignored. Clothing other than sweatpants haven’t made an appearance. Hair hasn’t been combed. Messy topknot has taken up permanent residence on my head. Lots of stress induced brattiness.

And yet.

Despite his own crazy week with 14 hour workdays and never getting home before 9 (thank you fiscal cliff!), someone stayed up till 1 am the other night to help me edit a paper for my translation class. And he brought me burgers from Good Stuff, as well as fries, despite the fact that I said I didn’t want any because I should just eat an apple instead. Of course I wanted fries.

Can’t wait for Christmas break to start so I can chill with husband again!

[Sidenote: If you are reading this, it means we made it through the end of the Mayan calendar. Close one. I wasn’t too stressed because let’s be honest, they probably just got tired of making it and thought “Surely we can just have some other people make more in say, oh, fifteen hundred years.” But, I did see a really alarming number of dead squirrels on a run this week and I might have texted James in a panic that it was a sign of Mayan doom. Then I developed a conspiracy theory involving dead squirrels, the Mayan calendar, and the fiscal cliff.]

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“Your face is so pretty you should be on a Christmas card!”*

I love Christmas cards.

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I love sending them, I love getting them, I love going through them well into the January.

James has begrudgingly accepted that we are now Christmas card people.  We sent out a big stack last week and I have spent all week imagining them scattered across the country and world, marching our Christmas tidings into the homes of so many people we love.

Christmas cards could become extinct, an anachronistic vestige of an era when people still sent letters, still kept stamps on hand, still wrote things out. They could, but I hope they won’t.

Luckily, I went to a college attended by many people (most of them ladies – let’s be real here) who still practice the art of letter writing. When I spent a semester in France, my friend Jenny mailed me a hand written letter every week. Every. Single. Week. That’s probably more than most of us have sent our entire life.

And in December, the fact that my life is full of Old School Letter Senders shows itself in the host of Christmas cards all over our fridge. Next year I will be proactive and think of some cool DIY way to display them, like this cool card tree. But for now they are just all over our fridge, the top of our TV, and peaking out from the bookshelves.

I love all the cards, but this year I especially loved the one from my friend Charlotte. Charlotte has handwritten of unparalleled perfection. It makes you want to go out right away and buy one of those notebooks with the big double lined paper so you can practice your handwriting.  But what I really loved was what she wrote inside of it. Charlotte selected and copied out two perfect quotes that sank deep into my soul and whispered the truth of Christmas there.

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*Confession: Sometimes I cheat and watch Elf out of season. I try not to, really I do. But it is so good, and as soon as that first Christmasy wind blows I am ready to watch it. If you haven’t ever seen it, go do it NOW.  It might be one of the funniest movies ever. Or maybe that’s just me. I try to quote it as much as possible during the holiday season… and the rest of the year.

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“I am thankful for family dinners.”

Who says we have to be done with Thanksgiving thankfulness just because it’s almost Christmas?  This week one of the things I did to put off writing papers (surprise) by cleaning out my inbox and found a “i am thankful for” submission that I missed in the business of thanksgiving. So today Julie is on the blog with what she is thankful for. Also, I am pretty sure that she is getting married this weekend (!!!) so I imagine these family dinners are about to get even better!

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Advent: What are we waiting for anymore?

Today is the third Sunday of Advent.59333882

Growing up, Advent was a HUGE deal in the Stone household. Every year we had a theme, and for the four weeks before Christmas, every evening ended with us gathered in the living room to do a devotion that centered on the theme. One year it was names of God, one year it was the tribes of Jacob, and another year it was Messianic prophecies. After the devotion, we would sing Christmas carols from the same outdated, falling apart bright green paper carol books.

Please don’t get any Normal Rockwell images of perfection. Nightly Advent also meant all out fights over who got to snuff out the candles on the wreath, complaining that my mom made us do it even when we felt to old for it, and some members of the family (read: ZACH) being all Grinch-like about any carol other than “Oh come oh come Emmanuel,” which is the world’s most depressing and dour Christmas carol.

And I love Advent, because in the midst of a season that has been stripped of all its actual meaning, Advent has remained pure, untainted by the secularization of Christmas. It is the season of waiting, of remembering that the entire Christian life is one of waiting. We wait for justice. We wait for the end of horrors like what happened in Connecticut last week. We wait for right to win out over wrong. We wait for peace to come again and dwell on earth. During the four weeks before Christmas, we wait with eager expectation for the birth of Christ, which is the promise of all those things. And every year, Advent comes again, reminding us of our need to wait, and our promised hope.

But this year, it seems like everywhere I look I see Advent calendars divorced from Advent itself.  They are all over Pinterest right now, hundreds of DIY extravaganzas to make December even more exciting than usual. And on the whole, they are nothing but a caloric countdown to Christmas, stuffing us with candy or chocolate or toys as we move closer to the materialistic gluttony that comes with Christmas morning.  Don’t get me wrong – I love all that stuff. I have also been known to eat an entire Advent calendar in the first week… oops.  But I can’t help but think of the pointlessness of Advent calendars if they are separated from actual Advent itself. For what are we then waiting, hoping expectantly, longing? A pile of gifts and some extra vacation time?

So by all means, let’s make some shabby chic DIY Advent calendars covered in feathers and vintage postcards or whatever. But let’s remember not to divorce waiting, from what we are waiting for, something that is much better than a bunch of gifts and food.

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*Images from here

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PROCRASTINATION, Fall 2012 Edition.

Ways to put off doing work during the final weeks of the semester:

  1. Make soup.
  2. Put up Christmas tree.
  3. Instagram pictures of books spread out.
  4. Craft witty facebook statuses.
  5. Constantly try to get a better seat at the Capital Hill Starbucks, preferably one by the fire.
  6. Drink eggnog
  7. Do dishes… do laundry… clean house….
  8. Use housekeeping as a crutch for academic denial.
  9. Instagram pictures of clean house.
  10. Go to store for more eggnog.
  11. Bake things with new KitchenAid.
  12. Instagram baked goods.
  13. Marvel about the wonder that is eggnog… contemplate if it really has raw eggs in it… get slightly grossed out.
  14. Drown worries in more eggnog.
  15. Blog about tree, baking, soup, maybe even eggnog.
  16. Design Christmas cards.
  17. Decide that NOW is the time to add new fonts to font library, for said Christmas cards of course.
  18. Go Christmas shopping.
  19. Spend time reading articles about the things to come next semester that will shake the world, ie, the royal baby and the next season of Downton Abbey.
  20. Pine for a puppy. Plan on naming him Proust.
  21. Go running.
  22. Reorganize closet.
  23. Blog about studying for exams, in lieu of studying naturally.
  24. Consider changing topics for final papers.
  25. Help friends with their grad school applications.
  26. Make food.
  27. Instagram pictures of food.
  28. Do dishes again… oh wait…
  29. Catch up on the blogs of everyone I know (like this post that made me want to have kids just so I could make one wear that sweater, and this post because I have never laughed so hard at someone’s unemployment)… and people I don’t know.
  30. Look up random poems on line. Weep over poetic perfection.
  31. Bemoan addiction to Instagram.
  32. Blog about procrastination.

I am not opposed to growing this list further still. Do provide any further ways to waste my time. All manner of interesting articles/youtube clips/ blog posts/ new hobbies to try are welcome.

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Christmas Cookie Time!

vscocam261Remember a couple weeks back when I asked y’all for soup advice? I just wanted to thank you so much for the outpouring of comments, emails, and facebook messages that came my way with soup recipes! I am pleased to announce that last week we had liquid meals almost every night.  It may take me all winter to make it through all the soup recipes (and decide on the best squash bisque!) but I am excited to try them.

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Beyond soup, there has been  a lot of baking in our little home lately. I blame it on the KitchenAid.  My fascination with watching baked goods mix themselves is unending. Plus, it is that point in the semester where I process my stress by ignoring the things I have to do and baking things that I really shouldn’t eat, like this banana bread.

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But after all, it is Christmas time, and that means finger food gluttony. There was an article in Real Simple this past month where the author confessed that all she really wanted for Christmas was to eat nothing but snacks. I can identify. I love healthy, well-balanced meals, but there is a sublime goodness in a dinner of cheese cubes and beanie weanies.  Food that can be eating with your hands or a toothpick just seems so decadent and marvelous, doesn’t it?

And what I really, really, love is finger food desserts, aka COOKIES. And tis’ the season for cookies! I love Christmas cookies. I love how the whole world embraces ginger, molasses, peppermint, and cinnamon. I love how we mix things up and make things impossibly lovely with sprinkles or jam thumbprints. And then I love how friendly those cookies get on my plate with some cheese cubes.

I do not have cookie making deficiencies like those I have with soup. But all the same, I would love some new Christmas cookie recipes before we throw our party this weekend… what are your favorites? Feel free to toss out any non-cookie Christmas finger foods too.  In return, here’s my favorite go-to Christmas goodie, gingerbread white-chocolate blondies.

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One year ago…or why you should always do your hair before leaving the house.

One year ago, a lot of things changed.

One year ago, I was pretty miserable, because after trying to organize my own engagement twice (yes, I am a crazy) I was pretty sure that James was never going to come around to it. Let that be a lesson, all ye independent ladies such as myself: if you try to propose to yourself, it will not go over so well. And just because you fabricate the perfect ambiance, doesn’t mean it will happen. But for you menfolk  who are reading, a note: if you and your significant other are at that point where she is expecting some bling, do not, DO NOT, lead her blindfolded to the Capital Christmas tree and then say you have a “a very important question to ask her” only to have it be “Would you rather see the tree first with the Capital in the background, or the mall?” She will be devastated and consider dumping you.

Despite the state of my emotions, one year ago, I showed up to meet Liz for the Nutcracker with wet hair, only even having showered because she told me that morning that I smelled bad… and only wearing a dress because she nagged me into it. What I should have been doing was working on final papers for school, but I had never missed seeing the Nutcracker.

One year ago, I was horribly late for said ballet because the Red Line never ever ever runs on time on the weekends and I really just wanted to go find my seat and enjoy the show and pout about how James had the nerve to go out of town for work without proposing. Nothing mends a bruised and impatient heart like tutus and dancing sugarplums.

One year ago, I impatiently stomped around the Kennedy Center terrace trying desperately to find Liz before the show started.

And one year ago, Liz was nowhere to be found.

Because one year ago, James was waiting in the freezing cold December wind with a bunch of roses, a perfect speech and a little box.

One year ago, I said yes to his question — despite a brief lamentation that had I known I was getting engaged, I would have done my hair first. Yes, when he finally popped the question, my answer was “IF I HAD KNOWN I WOULD HAVE PUT MY HAIR IN HOT ROLLERS!” But then came the yes, and the gleeful placing of the ring… on the wrong hand, where it stayed for a couple hours until we calmed down enough to realize it.

Best. Decision. Ever…. the saying yes, that is, not the neglecting to do my hair part.

0080_Hannah and James Thanks Alumbra Photography for the photos!

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“Wegmanns at home.”

Lately there has been a lot of time spent at home, just James and me. Sometimes we just declare to each other that we need to be Wegmanns at home, rather than Wegmanns out being social and fun.

There has been lots of hot chocolate and eggnog and gingerbread cookies and silly Christmas movies.

There has been lots of staring at the Christmas tree and listening to Christmas music and pretending like we both didn’t have way too many things to do.

But mostly, there has been lots of feeling so thankful that I married my best friend. What could be better than that?WegmannWedding219So yes, it’s official: I am now one of those obnoxious newlyweds that just wants to stay home and hang out with my husband. And I don’t even care.

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A little Christmas tree.

firsttreeLast weekend James and I went to buy a Christmas tree– our first Christmas tree together.treestallsObviously, getting a tree in Eastern Market is the yuppiest thing ever. We were fully aware that we were paying for the atmosphere, and not for our squatty little tree. But what better start to the Christmas season is there than sparkling stalls of Christmas trees and cozy knit hats?hatConfession: my hat love was maybe slightly premature, as DC recently experienced a freakish warm spell. But I just couldn’t wait any longer to break out the cozies! treeshoppingThe “cozy” size of our apartment also limited our tree selection. My first choice was disregarded, despite the fact that I think we could have turned it sideways, filled the living room, and pretended like we were in a forest.treeandscrapsLuckily though, I was able to pull lots of scraps from the “trash” pile…. which are now filling every spare space in our home. FOREST ACCOMPLISHED. treecollageBut so much better than our little tree is that man carrying the tree.

(Ps- Thanks Emily for recommending where to find new fonts! )

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